I have a serious question and would appreciate any advice that you guys can give me.
Lets say you’ve met someone. In general, you believe that they are a good person. Or at least they try to be a good person but there are these ‘little things’ that show you a less than good person side. For example, these ‘little things’ might show you that they are a bit hypocritical or that they are selfish. But if you look at the bigger picture… at the day-to-day gestures of this person… they show they are a good person.
Yesterday, I was told that the ‘little things’ show the true nature of the person. Even one or two little things that they do that are contrary to this good person side could override the million other things they did that really are good things. True or false?
Up until now, I had been brushing aside little things as exactly that – just little things. Things I could adjust to and get used to because they were little things. Today I made a list of the little things that have been bothering me. It is about a dozen little things that all point to a couple of different character traits that are not exactly the top 10 character traits you are looking for in a person. Having examined some of these ‘little things’, I am wondering if I should be taking this advice and paying attention to them.
If I am being judged on the couple of ‘little things’ that I have done with no regard to any of the other things that I have done, should I be judging the other person on the ‘little things’?