One of the features of OkCupid is that you can IM someone. I picked someone to look at and realized that they were online. I decided that this person would be the person I would attempt to connect to that day. I felt silly emailing this person when they were currently online so I decided to approach them via IM. (I think this is an option in Match although I never used it). I sent three messages along this line:
Me: I felt rather silly emailing you when you were online so I decided to instant message you instead.
(a pause then)
I found your profile interesting and I like to try out new restaurants too. (maybe too lame? I was a bit thrown by the lack of response. Not even a Hi?)
(a longer pause then)
Well, I am off to watch Argentina kill Colombia (I hope) in Copa America. If my profile interests you, drop me a line.
I knew he was active and online because he looked at my profile right after I brought his up. I started the IM about 5 to 10 minutes later. He also looked at my profile about an hour after the conversation. So the guy was not idling through the conversation. But wow… not even to acknowledge that I spoke to him. That is cold.